First off:

My NaNoFiMo was a limited success. I hit the word goal for NaNoWriMo, but I spread the words out over two projects and so did not actually finish anything. Yet. I am easily within 50 pages of the end of the Shape-shifter novel, and I have some good ideas for the re-write. I'm still indecisive about such basic things as POV, but I suppose you can't have everything. Heh.
I have most of the major conflict done, though the plot will need some fortifying at this juncture. All that is left is the agony (I'm really good at agony), one character's self-mutilation and the clothes backwards thing. But the really hard part is done-- it will have to be re-done extensively, but what the heck.
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I have a confession to make.
I like mouthy, opinionated women. Even when I don't agree with them, even when they are cruel, close-minded and boorish. I generally try not to provoke the latter, it's true. But even when I find a particular tirade pointless and annoying, I'll still pick the mouthy wench over the slink-off-and-boil type of gal. This is mostly because, if you slink off and boil at me, I generally don't notice for quite a while. This tends to make the boiler even angrier, and in the end it's just too much energy expended on something I didn't even know I did.
So, there.
Now, generally speaking, I do put a lot of energy into getting on with people, keeping the peace and so forth. I must be fairly bad at it, though, on account of the number of people I offend regularly.
Also, I offend more women than men. I think this is because women, in general, have a tendency to read more into what I say than I actually intend. Read what I write literally, without so much between the lines, and you'll get a better grip on what I'm saying than if you see implications in what I say, no matter how obvious they may seem. I can be surprisingly oblivious.
While it is possible that when I say something nice there are a dozen not nice things that I might think but choose not to say, that is true of anyone and we'll all be happier if we don't go there. :)
For example, if I don't like a song or a movie or a book that you like -- if I do, in fact, have rather a good time joking about it -- it doesn't mean I don't like you, or value your unique gifts. It just means we disagree about that song, book or movie.
Also, you're a wanker.
;)
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It's been rainy and foggy here, sort of darkish all day long. I can tell the weather just by looking at my hair. Seriously. *FOOOOOM* Moist air makes my hair go all kinky. (Whereas the rest of me... HAR,HAR!)
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Things I want to pull the trigger on this week:
DANCE!
Work on a video. (These two items are unrelated.)

My NaNoFiMo was a limited success. I hit the word goal for NaNoWriMo, but I spread the words out over two projects and so did not actually finish anything. Yet. I am easily within 50 pages of the end of the Shape-shifter novel, and I have some good ideas for the re-write. I'm still indecisive about such basic things as POV, but I suppose you can't have everything. Heh.
I have most of the major conflict done, though the plot will need some fortifying at this juncture. All that is left is the agony (I'm really good at agony), one character's self-mutilation and the clothes backwards thing. But the really hard part is done-- it will have to be re-done extensively, but what the heck.
***
I have a confession to make.
I like mouthy, opinionated women. Even when I don't agree with them, even when they are cruel, close-minded and boorish. I generally try not to provoke the latter, it's true. But even when I find a particular tirade pointless and annoying, I'll still pick the mouthy wench over the slink-off-and-boil type of gal. This is mostly because, if you slink off and boil at me, I generally don't notice for quite a while. This tends to make the boiler even angrier, and in the end it's just too much energy expended on something I didn't even know I did.
So, there.
Now, generally speaking, I do put a lot of energy into getting on with people, keeping the peace and so forth. I must be fairly bad at it, though, on account of the number of people I offend regularly.
Also, I offend more women than men. I think this is because women, in general, have a tendency to read more into what I say than I actually intend. Read what I write literally, without so much between the lines, and you'll get a better grip on what I'm saying than if you see implications in what I say, no matter how obvious they may seem. I can be surprisingly oblivious.
While it is possible that when I say something nice there are a dozen not nice things that I might think but choose not to say, that is true of anyone and we'll all be happier if we don't go there. :)
For example, if I don't like a song or a movie or a book that you like -- if I do, in fact, have rather a good time joking about it -- it doesn't mean I don't like you, or value your unique gifts. It just means we disagree about that song, book or movie.
Also, you're a wanker.
;)
***
It's been rainy and foggy here, sort of darkish all day long. I can tell the weather just by looking at my hair. Seriously. *FOOOOOM* Moist air makes my hair go all kinky. (Whereas the rest of me... HAR,HAR!)
***
Things I want to pull the trigger on this week:
DANCE!
Work on a video. (These two items are unrelated.)
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Well done. You have staying power.
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And I hate it when I've offended a friend, and she doesn't say anything, but expects me to somehow magically know that I've done so. Then she gets fed up with waiting for me to apologize and tells me I've offended her, but still won't tell me what I've done, because I "ought to know." Well, fuck that. I don't have time to be anybody else's psychotherapist.
I am always more comfortable interacting with men, because most of them are far from subtle also, and they appreciate my ability to express what I think and then get over it.
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Women are supposed to like to gossip and all that, but I just really didn't want to know. I don't like talking about people behind their backs. Sometimes people try to draw me in, but it just makes me uncomfortable.
Good to know I'm not the only one this happens to. ;)
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One of the downsides to this "handicap" is that I don't pay attention to personalities in fandom. I rarely remember who said what, who wrote what, personal details of people's lives, etc. And so many folks consider it a terrible slight when you can't recall something you "ought to" know about them. I can barely keep track of my own life, thanks. I don't have the resources to remember which of you is married and whether or not it's cats or children infesting your houses. :-)
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And the communication thing? ...Yeah. Agreed.
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Congrats on the NaNo thing. I can barely do 100 words at a time never mind thousands so well done.
As for the boil vs bold, I tend to like someone in between. I'm not an in-your-face kind of person usually although I will get there if I think I need to. I don't boil much but I can see that some people have problems telling it like it is.
And I love to gossip. But I also won't say things that might offend people just because I don't usually want to hurt their feelings. But again I might if the situation warrents it.
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Which is why I like to befriend mouthy bitches. ;) I always know where I stand with them, even if it's in the dog house. Takes the guesswork out of it, which for me is usually the hardest part.
Also, I figured "wanker" is a safe insult, since mostly it's true. Who hasn't had an occasional wank?
(Nobody answer that question, please. I don't really want to know.)
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Yeah? Well, you're a jerkface.
So there.
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As for the rest of your post, I'm still trying to decide if I should publicly react to that post last night. I was so stunned and hurt by it that I didn't quite know what to do. I've worked hard not to make my political and moral beliefs a part of how I choose my friends because those beliefs don't have anything to do with the people I value and love. But maybe others don't feel the same way. I'm wondering if I shouldn't just put everything out there and give everyone the option of defriending me if they want to. I mean, they always have that option, but maybe a no questions asked kind of an option.
This isn't really directed at you. I've just been in a state of bothered all day and I'm thinking out loud here in your comments. Sorry. :)
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I would LOVE to be so sure of my own rightness that these other things didn't matter, but the truth is, I'd be a totally different person than I am if I did, and probably not one I'd like being.
Like, yesterday with that one post, I was torn about quoting foul language. On the one hand, the c-word is probably the worst in my book. On the other hand, it made me blow milk out my nose.
So, for me, it's always a tug of war between wanting to be kind and loving and sensitive to everyone (Like, truly enlightened or something) and your basic attention-getting, ego grab. I'm generally ashamed when I do the Ego Dance, but I still admire hard to get along with, irascible folk because, though it something I'd be good at, considering the times I make people angry when I certainly don't intend to do so, it's not something I have the stomach for, generally.
For example, I feel terrible that my admitting admiration for a post that hurt your feelings has probably also hurt your feelings. Personally, I LIKE having people on my flist who disagree with me about stuff. Keeps me honest. *big ol' hug*
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I want to read these stories! I have plenty of free time doing class prep or whatever...
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I can send you some stuff when I've polished it. Right now, it's all a mess on account of the speed and general disregard for coherence that goes along with those time constraints.